Principle 4: Openly examine and confess my faults to myself, to God, and to someone I trust.
“Happy are the pure in heart.” (Matthew 5:8)
Step 4: We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
“Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord.”
Think About It
Now that you have the background information and you’ve built your accountability team, it’s time to start writing your inventory. This lesson will provide you with the tools you need.
How do I start my inventory?
The Celebrate Recovery Inventory is divided into five sections. It will help you keep focused on reality and recall events that you may have repressed. Remember, you are not going through this alone. You are developing your support team to guide you, but even more important, you are growing in your relationship with Jesus Christ!
It will take you more than one page to write out your inventory. You have permission to copy the “Celebrate Recovery Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet” on pages 30 and 31.
Column 1: “The Person”
In this column you list the person or object you resent or fear. Go as far back as you can. Resentment is mostly unexpressed anger and fear.
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” (Ephesians 4:31)
Column 2: “The Cause”
It has been said that “hurt people hurt people.” In this column you are going to list the specific actions that someone did to hurt you. What did the person do to cause you resentment and/or fear? An example would be the alcoholic father who was emotionally unavailable for you as you were growing up. Another example would be the parent who attempted to control and dominate your life. This reflective look and be very painful. But…
“Fear not, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed. I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10, TLB)
Column 3: “The Effect”
In this column write down how that specific hurtful action affected your life. List the effects it had on your past and your present.
Column 4: “The Damage”
Which of you basic instincts were injured?
Social – broken relationships, slander
Security – physical safety, financial loss
Sexual – abusive relationships, damaged intimacy
No matter how you have been hurt, no matter how lost you may feel, God wants to comfort and restore you.
“I will look for those that are lost, I bring back those that wander off, bandage those that are hurt, and heal those that are sick.” (Ezekiel 34:16, GND)
Column 5: “My Part”
You need to ask yourself, “What part of my resentment against another is my responsibility?” Ask God to show you your part in a broken or damaged marriage or relationship, with a distant child or parent, or maybe a lost job. In addition, list all the people whom you have hurt and how you hurt them.
“Examine me, O God, and know my mind; test me and discover… if there is any evil in me and guide me in the everlasting way.” (Psalm 139:23-24)
Please note: If you have been in an abusive relationship, especially as a small child, you can find great freedom in this part of the inventory. You see that you had NO part, NO responsibility for the cause of the resentment. By simply writing the words “none” or “not guilty” in column 5, you can begin to be free from the misplaced shame and guilt you have carried with you.
Celebrate Recovery has rewritten Step 4 for those who have been sexually or physically abused:
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves, realizing all wrongs can be forgiven. renounce the lie that the abuse was our fault.
Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet
Principle 4 Verses
Emotion and Positive Scriptures