Principle 4: Openly examine and confess my faults to myself, to God, and to someone I trust.
“Happy are the pure in heart.” (Matthew 5:8)
Step 4: We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
“Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord.” (Lamentations 3:40)
Think About It
You’ve heard the word “sponsor” for a few weeks now. I’m sure you have at least a vague idea of what a sponsor is, but maybe you’re wondering why you even need one.
Why do I need a sponsor and/or on accountability partner?
There are three reasons why having a sponsor is vital.
Having a sponsor and/or accountability partner is biblical.
“Two are better off than one, because together they can work more effectively. If one of them falls down, the other can help him up.
But if someone is alone… there is no one to help him… Two men can resist an attack that would defeat one man alone. “(Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, GNB)
“As iron sharpens iron, one man sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17)
Having a sponsor and/or accountability partner is a key part of your recovery program.
Your recovery program has four key elements to success:
By providing feedback to keep you on track, a sponsor and/or accountability partner can see your old dysfunctional hurts, hang-ups, and habits beginning to return, and point them out to you quickly. He or she can confront you with truth and love without placing shame or guilt.
What are the qualities of sponsor?
“Though good advice lies deep within a counselor’s heart, the wise man will draw it out.” (Proverbs 20:5 TLB)
When you are selecting a possible sponsor, look for the following qualities:
First, your sponsor or accountability partner MUST be of the same sex as you. After you have narrowed the field down with that requirement, listen to people share. do you relate to or resonate with what is spoken? Ask others in your group to go out for coffee after the meeting. Get to know the person before you ask him or her to be your sponsor or accountability partner!
If you ask someone to be your sponsor or accountability partner and that person says no, do not take it as personal rejection. Ask someone else. You can even ask for a “temporary” sponsor or accountability partner.
Ask God to lead you to the sponsor and/or accountability partner of His choosing. He already has someone in mind for you.
What is the difference between a sponsor and an accountability partner?
A sponsor is someone who has completed the four participant’s guides. He or she has worked through the eight principles and the 12 Steps. The main goal of this relationship is to choose someone to guide you through the program.
An accountability partner is someone you ask to hold you accountable for certain areas of your recovery or issues, such as meeting attendance, journaling, and so forth. this person can be at the same level of recovery as you are, unlike a sponsor, who should have completed the eight principles or 12 Steps. The main goal of this relationship is to encourage one another. You can even form an accountability team of three or four.
The accountability partner or group acts as the “team,” whereas the sponsor’s role is that of a “coach”.